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Three weeks ago, I sent out a survey about these termsand over 3. Despite all the talk of tops and bottoms within the queer community, our survey revealed that people who identify specifically as tops or bottoms are in the minority overall. Who can say! Despite a stated equal interest in giving and receiving most sexual acts, there were a few acts for which the percentage of switches who were down for giving exceeded the who were up for receiving.
I noticed that in many areas, the percentage of switches interested in a certain sexual act or dating behavior was usually just slightly below the interest of tops for top-associated things, or tops bottoms and switches bottoms for bottom-associated things.
Others indicated that an interest in both positions did not preclude a preference towards one. Gender and gender presentation factored in as well which has also been my own personal experience. Or it can mean that with some partners you top and others you bottom, or on a given day you might do one or the other. I think true switches are also very powerful, because we know what it feels like have complete control and to completely give up control. As with other activities on this survey, switches tended to fall a little closer to tops on the toppy activities and a little closer to bottoms on the bottomy activities.
Of the 1, switches on our survey, identify as kinky. Kinky switches reported a wide range of experiences for how switching played out in their sexual lives. But I also really enjoy giving up control. Bottoming is one of the only times in my life I ever really stop worrying about everything and only worry about pleasing my partner.
With the right top, it quiets my anxieties and makes me feel so warm and cared about. She leans more subby than I do, so I end up domming more often. Other times the switching is act-specific. It feels like turning off my brain, and grounding myself, via my body. Different folks bring out really different strains of feeling for me. Or, kinky switching is an active role throughout the encounter.
Most who provided additional commentary on their none-of-aboveness could be split into five camps of thought:. Sex should be approached as fluid, active, engaged, and new and different every time. NOTAs were way more likely to not identify as kinky or like kinky sex than other survey takers — That leaves us with 51 kinky NOTAs to overanalyze.
Verses are NOT half tops and half bottoms they are their own majestic creatures. Vers 4 Vers till the day that I die. If a label holds meaning for you, then by all means, embrace it. I like them. I love the memes and jokes we make around these terms e.
C U Next Tuesday to talk about sub identities! A lot of the language in these posts is intended to make them easy to find on search engines. Take what you want and what applies to you or what you can make apply to you and your partners and your experiences, and leave the rest! She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Wordand then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! Follow her on twitter and instagram. They were talking about kink but I could see some resonances in my own non-kink interests too.
I love this comment! Yes, so very yes…I think the way in which we can all bring out different elements of each other is one of the most fascinating aspects of human connection. Especially without any knowledge of the dynamics, negotiations, and types of care between two people. Let people want what they want and use the labels that make them feel good!
UGH sorry. They are queer as hell! Side note: any tops can me. You've decided to leave a comment. That's fantastic. Please keep in mind that comments are moderated by the guidelines laid tops bottoms and switches in our comment policy. Let's have a personal and meaningful conversation and thanks for stopping by! Before you go! It takes funding to keep this publication by and for queer women and trans people of all genders running every day. Still, Related: tops and bottoms tops and bottoms sex survey.
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